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Some of us knew her as Jessie Oliver, her pseudonym here on LJ where she blogged as [ profile] _chaotictears_.

Those who met her in real life after she became ill have documented what they saw; a girl who could not speak, who could not move from her bed, her body broken by severe ME and forced into meltdown by the invention of misguided medical professionals. Those with little or no understanding of the critical importance of total rest during the initial stages of sudden-onset, acute ME.

Those of us who knew her online knew a different Lynn. We knew a bright, intelligent and optimistic girl with a lively spirit and a keen sense of humour who always had a kind word of support whenever one of us was feeling low.

Yesterday I discovered I'd lost a dear friend. I know that for Lynn it was the release she had desperately craved. For me and the rest of her friends her passing has left a huge a heart-shaped hole in all our lives.

I've started a Facebook group called 'Friends of Lynn Gilderdale', if you've got a Facebook account please join. If you'd like an email invite from me please drop your email addy in a message to belle_marmotte(at)
Please make sure to put the NOT com!

As Lynn's mum has been arrested on suspicion of murder I think we need to rally all the support we can for her and her family.

Date: 2008-12-10 02:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yes, thank you.

Didn't know you were on Facebook, I'm here:

there's another facebook group for her too.

Date: 2008-12-10 08:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks L, I can't seem to find the other group, so if you've got the details please send them to me so I can join that too.

It's great to finally 'see' you on there. I'll have to get around to uploading a picture. Preferably when I've managed to wash my hair and put on clean pjs!

Date: 2008-12-10 08:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]

sorry for my inadequate response earlier to your lovely and thoughtful post, I don't know what I'm doing at the moment.

I'll send you an invite for the other group. I've found a further one that looks good too, I'm going to join and I'll send you an invite for that one as well.

Thanks. I only take the occasional photo of myself as I hate looking awful and ill.

This keeping clean malarkey takes so much energy when you have M.E. doesn't it. I often think of all the things I could do if I didn't have to wash! Look forward to seeing a photo of you anyway! :o)

Date: 2008-12-10 06:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I was so sad to hear of her passing and even sadder to discover she was _chaotictears_

My thoughts are with her family and every one of friends right now. Her loss will touch many.

T x

Date: 2008-12-10 08:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Her loss will touch many

It will indeed. She had a large network of online friends and she managed to make us all feel special and valued.

For one with so much of a burden to bear in life she gave so much love and support.

I just wanted somewhere that she could be remembered for the person she really was.

Date: 2008-12-10 06:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Very well said, you found the words I could not at this hard time.

Rest in Peace Jessie, we'll miss you so very much as you had such a massive impact on our lives. All my love, your close friend Rose xxx

*hugs to you* I know you must be struggling, as I and many other friends are. Friends were such a massive and important part of Jessie's life and I know she treasured and loved us all x

Date: 2008-12-10 08:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs you back*

It was a shock, not so much to learn that she had died, but the circumstances surrounding it really shook me (police involvement and the arrest of her poor mum) and I'm sure it was the same for you too.

I know she would never have thought that her choice would have resulted in this amount of police and media interest.

I'm really hoping the CPS decide that pursuing her mum isn't in the public interest, as they did with the family of the boy who went to Switzerland following his rugby accident.

I have to say I've avoided the media all day today.

Date: 2008-12-10 10:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks for the hugs, much needed.

I know what you mean, all the media coverage has been most distressing and the curcumstances around her death. Its the last thing Jessie would of wanted, especially when I highly doubt her mum did anything wrong.

Its hard enough when you loose a friend let alone the added hurt/shock the media can cause. Its the last thing we all needed and as for her mum, well that must of been truly awful...she had just lost her daughter and within 2 hours she was taken by the police. Its just awful and upsets me deeply as I am sure it has others.

I'm thinking of you too, as I know you were friends also and its so hard loosing someone...I am struggling so much even though I know Jessie is finally at peace.

Love and hugs xxx

Date: 2008-12-10 08:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I don't.. know what to say... ._______. I can't believe they would try to charge her mother for murder. Hasn't she been through enough?!

I didn't know these people, but I'm still very sorry. *hugs you* If there is anything I can do, you'll let me know?

For all of her suffering, I'm glad she's in a better place, now. ♥

Date: 2008-12-10 09:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
oh my god, I didn't realise she was chaotic tears. Now this has really personally touched me too, I've read and 'enjoyed' so many of her comments and posts. Shit.

more gentle hugs

Date: 2008-12-10 10:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I think we all need a group hug.

Yes I didn't realise until I saw something on bunny's blog and then out of the blue I saw the news item on Channel 4 at about 7.30pm last night about the arrest and release on bail of her mum. I went into shock.

Date: 2008-12-11 04:50 am (UTC)

Date: 2008-12-11 07:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I only found out today. I'm in shock over how things are unfolding. So heartbreaking.

Date: 2008-12-11 08:18 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
This is very sad. I didn't know her, I only saw her comment on LJ here and there--don't remember whose flists. My heart goes out to her family, and my hopes are for better recognition of a real, serious disease, and more, better, research.

I am very sorry you lost a friend.

Date: 2008-12-11 08:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I didn't know her but this is so, so sad. It's frightening to think how many people might have been let down so badly by the medical profession. I can't imagine what her family are going through & I'm very sorry for your loss, take care.

Date: 2008-12-11 10:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I am so sorry for your loss of a friend, and for all her friends and family too. Sadly I didn't know her apart from reading her comments when they appeared. I hope the circumstances of her death are cleared up quickly and that it doesn't prolong the pain for everyone

Date: 2008-12-13 11:59 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jeshyr
Belle, would you be willing to crosspost this to me_cfs_severe? I need to have something there - I'm worried not everybody will know. But I'm not up to writing to make sense.

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